source: Courtesy

When you start hanging out with someone, it can take a while to figure out where you actually stand. Maybe you’ve had fun hanging out, and hooking up, but how do you decide whether or not this should be something more? Is this just going to be a fling is he wasting your time or is this something real?

It can be hard to tell, especially when you really like someone. Sometimes your romantic feelings can get in the way of seeing who they really are, and you might waste time trying to turn a hook-up into a relationship when you should have just walked away.

Well you still have to be honest with yourself. Below are red flags to know he is just a waste of your time & you have to cut the cord;

  • Been together for long but no title to the relationship.

Girl, either ask him to define where both of you stand or walk out. He’s wasting your time boo!

  • If he moves too fast.

Not talking of physical, but already calling you boo/babe, talking of moving in together whereas you have known each other for less than a month. Get to be friends first. No relationship flourishes without a good friendship base. When the love runs out you can’t stick together.

  • If you start dating two months or less after his break up with a 1 year or more relationship.

I mean that sounds more of a rebound & more likely, he might still be in love with the ex. Honestly you wouldn’t expect him to be over her that fast. An exemption would be, if you had a thing going on before his break up which is not any better.

  • There’s no emotional connection.

Hooking up is fun, but there is so much more to a relationship. But a true connection goes beyond getting dinner and going to a movie. Maybe you just need to get to know each other better, or maybe he has no interest in getting to know you on that level. If that’s the case, you deserve so much better, and you need to find someone who wants that deep connection.


  • When together but always on phone

Picking up calls or texting clearly, he would rather be somewhere else or doing something else than spend time with you or have a solid one on one conversation.

Baby girl it is time to go through this list and evaluate your relationship and figure out where you stand.