A lady texted Kamene saying she is in a toxic relationship and finds it hard to leave. The big question is why is that lasses are hooked to such men?
"I have had a guy who drives me crazy, takes my money and frustrates me emotionally. He is the complete definition of a bad boy. I then met a really nice guy, he is committed to making me happy, he doesn't bring me issues. He is one of those who will text me all the time and make me feel so good. He is everything I need but I cannot leave this bad guy." The LISTENER said.
Kibe urged lasses to call in assuring them that he is there to fix the problems of all the women who are ready to give their experiences.
The biggest concern Kamene had was,
Bad men have a demon that makes women not leave them. Why is it we are stuck here.
Kibe made a very valid point saying that people date a reflection of who they are.
"As humans, It doesn't matter how you look. When you're by yourself there is something you are insecure about. Since that makes you human, you do not want a perfect thing because it will expose your weakness. The person you will be with will be a reflection of you." He said
Kibe added saying,
This chic has a perfect guy who wants her but she will leave the nice guy and find yourself in a boda at 6:30 am carrying eggs ati you're going to cook him breakfast. Once the bad boy knows it, it's going to be sodom and gomora. To you the lady who is going through this, there is nothing you're going to do about it. You're our slaves.
Haven't you seen a chic who has left the office well dressed and then you board a matatu but you will leave there with the makanga's number? Weird right?
This story got Kamene sharing her story about being in a similar relationship before and what it took to snap back into reality.
"I didn't know this guy was bad for me because I really loved this guy. He had good days and bad days but the bad days became too much. He was a narcissist. I met another guy and I was surprised because I had been through the worst. This guy was so good, messages, flowers slowly by slowly. wooing me. Sadly I was still hooked to this bad guy." Kamene opened up
She continued giving an example of the day things got really bad but she still went back to him.
There was a day I looked at my phone I got messages from this bad boy and the good guy. I looked at the bad guy's message and I was like who is this? Such a hateful message. After a few bad words, he apologized and asked to come to see me and imagine I found myself agreeing.
Kibe defended this position saying it has been there ever since the Bible days.
It is not love. As in the bible, there is a place where Jezebel is doing the most and we call that the Jezebel effect and it is still happening in this era. You're attracted to the wrong and bad guy. In marriage, you make the right decisions but relationships you get the wrong guy because it is exciting.
Do you agree with Kibe? Are toxic relationships exciting?
