Alisha, who acted in popular local drama series Mother-In-Law, got married in 2013.The wedding was even televised on Citizen TV’s Wedding Show programme.
Talking about her now ex-husband, Idah through her YouTube channel revealed that he was abusive.
I FELL IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY AND HE WAS PRINCE CHARMING. IF SOMEONE TOLD ME THIS GUY WAS SOMETHING, I’D PROBABLY GET MAD.
Her close friends would tell her she got married to a narcissist but she defended him.
HE WAS GREAT. THE FIRST YEAR WAS FANTASTIC AND HE STARTED BECOMING ABUSIVE. THE FIRST TIME HE SLAPPED ME I WAS LIKE IT MUST BE THIS MOUTH (SHE SAID WHILE POINTING AT HER MOUTH). I MUST HAVE SAID SOMETHING RECKLESS THAT MADE HIM ANGRY AND WE MAKE EXCUSES LIKE HE DOESN’T ACT LIKE THAT. HE SAID SORRY AND WE MOVED ON. I NEVER TOLD ANYONE ESPECIALLY BECAUSE MY LIFE WAS IN THE LIMELIGHT.
HE STRIPPED ME OF MY CONFIDENCE SLOWLY BY SLOWLY. I WOULD WEAR A DRESS AND HE WOULD BE LIKE ‘WHERE ARE YOU GOING DRESSED LIKE THAT?’ HE THEN WOULD SAY ‘SO YOU JUST GONNA SHOW YOUR KNEES LIKE THAT?’ IDAH SAID,
The man did not change. One day he became violent in the presence of her friends and it’s at that point when they believed her when said the man was abusive.
THERE WAS A TIME MY FRIENDS HAD COME OVER TO MY HOUSE AND I TOLD HIM WE WERE GOING OUT AND WOULD BE BACK EARLY. WHEN WE CAME BACK HE STARTED ASKING WHERE WE HAD BEEN DESPITE THE FACT THAT WE TOLD HIM WE WERE GOING OUT. MY PALS WERE SPENDING THE NIGHT OVER AT OUR PLACE AND IT ENDED UP BEING VIOLENT. HE DRAGGED ME IN FRONT OF MY FRIENDS AND WAS TRYING TO THROW ME AROUND AND THEY WITNESSED THIS.
Things changed for the worst and Idah said,
THERE’S A TIME HE EVEN TOOK OVER MY FINANCES. IF I SENT MY MOTHER MONEY HE WOULD BE ANGRY AND IT WOULD LEAD TO AN ARGUMENT WHICH TURNED INTO VIOLENCE. I STARTED GETTING ANXIETY ATTACKS. EVERY TIME SOMETHING HAPPENED I’D GET PANIC ATTACKS.
She continued, "THERE WAS A SCENARIO THAT HAPPENED IN MY LIFE. I REMEMBER THERE WAS A TIME HE WAS STANDING OVER ME IN THE SAME POSITION MY DAD STOOD OVER MY MUM. THAT’S WHEN I TOLD MYSELF ‘THIS MAN IS GONNA KILL ME ONE DAY AND THAT’S WHEN I LEFT."
She narrated how she prepared herself for work that morning, dressed up and took her handbag never to return again.
I WALKED OUT LIKE I WAS GOING TO WORK AND NEVER CAME BACK.
He later went to her mother’s house to look to her. Idah said she tried seeking help from pastors she knew but nothing happened.
THE AMOUNT OF HYPOCRISY THAT’S IN THE CHURCH I CAN’T HANDLE. I REMEMBER ONE TIME THIS PASTOR WE WERE TALKING TO HOPING TO SOLVE OUR PROBLEM BUT HE DIDN’T.
THESE PASTORS ARE HUMAN BEINGS AND CAN PICK SIDES.
The actress tried to salvage her relationship but it didn’t work.
Well, in September 2015 Idah took to social media to auction her gown before leaving for Carolina, US, where she is currently based.
I WAS GOING TO TRASH MY DRESS … GO PAINT BALLING WITH IT TOMORROW BUT SOMEONE ASKED ME TO SELL IT INSTEAD.
FOR A MOMENT I REFUSED BUT … I THOUGHT OF HOW PRETTY I FELT IN IT AND HOW HAPPY I WAS TO FIND IT…
I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE THAT FEELING WITH ANOTHER SPECIAL BRIDE. SO WHOEVER CALLS AND GETS THIS GOWN … I CANT WAIT TO MEET AND ATLEAST SHARE A CUP OF COFFEE WITH YOU AS I LET GO OF ONE OF THE MOST EXPENSIVE THINGS I’VE EVER WORN. INFACT I THINK IT IS THE MOST EXPENSIVE. LOL … WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.
The two were from abusive families and after bonding, Aisha was convinced that they were going to bury their pasts and start a great family.
WHEN DATING, HE TOLD ME HIS FATHER WAS ABUSIVE BUT WORSE THAN MINE.
Olive grew up in an abusive family, where the father used to beat her mother but one day, she decided to pack and leave.
I WITNESSED MY DAD BEING ABUSIVE TO MY MUM. HE WAS ALCOHOLIC TO THE POINT THAT HE WOULDN’T FUNCTION WITHOUT TAKING ALCOHOL.
