Today's morning Kiss conversation touched on a reality that is true for most people, dating a narcissist and what it is like to be in a relationship with such people.
Kamene gives a recount of an incident relating to her friend and her narcissist's ex-partner.
"Her narcissist ex unamwambia umenikosea hapa, and then them they turn that mistake that they have made to you, now sasa wewe umemkosea.", the radio personality said.
(She would tell her narcissist ex of his mistakes, and would then proceed to flip the mistakes that they have made and make it seem like you are the one at fault).
She went on to give some context to that statement:
"She'd go and find his phone inalia (ringing) alafu (then)before you know it anapata ma message za madame ka 3 million wakikatiana(he is receiving messages from multiple women). So she goes to him and she was like, 'who are all of these babes on your phone?"
"And you know what this guy would say.... 'why are you going through my phone, mh? Now you don't trust me? This is what breaks relationships.", finished the talk show host.
Obinna went on to detail a similar previous situation that he was in, revealing that the ex in question would gaslight him into believing that he was the problem every time he would catch her flirting with other men.
"I've had a similar situation, I was dating somebody and she would flirt with a couple of people and I found out accidentally because I trusted this person", Obinna says.
He went on to say:
"Then when I would ask, she would get offended that I would ask why she is flirting with other people... her excuse was 'I am just flirting, I am not doing anything...'" Obinna closes.
Webmd defines narcissism as a a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.
That definition alone should be reason enough to avoid such kinds of individuals.
They are literally life-sucking leeches that do not have your best interests at heart.